A Marital Resolution

I thought about taking my last post down but decided that it's a natural part of this journey and it might help other women to see a realistic picture of how TTC affects a marriage over time.

First, I am still disappointed but I realize my disappointment in the fertility situation is starting to meld with my disappointment with my husband and that's not fair.  He's my partner in this even if he isn't taking the same actions.

Second, not everything is going to happen the way I want it to so I should just focus on it actually happening.  So DH going gluten free and skipping on the alcohol or failing to do so might not be the solution to the problem.  Accepting that and moving on to the next reasonable course of action is necessary.

After all, if I want a baby more than I want a happy marriage, my priorities are out of line.

Third, the key to a happy marriage is accepting each other's shortcomings as they are since your partner does the same for you.  So DH's lack of willpower or his lack of belief in Eastern fertility treatments, though it is frustrating to me, is not something I should try to change.  If he wants to change, he can, but if he can't I need to accept that and move on.

I have made an appointment with a Urologist for him and resigned to the fact that I'm going to have to take medication or undergo treatments I was trying to avoid. 

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